Re: hello

         It’s so nice to hear from Chester again. Anyway, this is a reaction to what he said before this blog. I know most of the boys are in the middle east now working hard to help their family back home. I salute you guys. Chester  is trying to emphasize about the importance of being with your family most especially your parents while they are still alive. I dunno what’s going on in his mind, but I guess he’s missing his family so much at the moment. Fair enough chester, I think it’s valid. The difference between our barkada in uae or wherever they are now at this point in their lives, I reckon they are preparing now for their future. We are all aware that they have their respective love ones left in Pinas waiting for them to come back. Together with the hope eventually that they will settle and get married perhaps very soon. I know the feeling of loosing parents by the death of my dad recently. It was very hard for me because I am not allowed to leave London yet plus the fact that my work can’t give me a holiday slot. I’m telling you I cry all the time. I can’t stop the tears. I just want to go home so badly.  I am  now married, no kids but I still have my family back home. I have supported my family for as long as I can remember. I  was a working student back home and manage to help my family and finance my schooling.  Most of my friends maybe didnt understand why I didnt finish my course at the time. The job that I have was truly a blessing for me. It gave me so many opportunity something that I can’t miss. It lead me to meet my hubby Jonathan too. When it rain it pours, blessing after every blessing. It was my parents who trusted me with my judgement towards marrying my husband now. What I’m trying to say is, you have to prioritize yourself too. Don’t ever think of giving monetary help to your family back home all the time. You have to plan your future too because I know most of my friends in uae have decided already who to marry I think. In my case, I’ve been helping a lot already. From the day my dad had that stroke last yr until up to the day he died. I thought it will make me a good daughter by stretching your monetary help all the time. There will come a time that they will take advantage of you. You have to say NO sometimes. Family can give you all shit stories that they are struggling too much. Be watchful too. Prioritize yourself. Balance is very important. Don’t try to be a hero all the time. If you don’t have something to help them let them know and say NO I can’t help now. I know how expensive it is as well  as living in the foreign land. I live in london the most expensive city in Europe. What the hell! You get good money but you also pay your expensive  bills and shopping. Money is gone in seconds. I’m sure you know what I meant because all of us have experience that. My income is too big converted in pesos but I live in london and what I earn is just what I needed here. It’s a hard life too. I’m now married, I have my family to look after as well. We also have plans on our own. Biblically, we leave our mother and father and go to our spouses. If you can’t handle it, if you can’t leave your parents yet then don’t get married. It will only arouse friction and chaos. Any advice that you need about settlin down and warnings bout the odds, just come to me. Give me a buzz my friend. I’ll be there for you by experience. 

                                                                                                                                       Always and Always,

                                                                                                                                              Kankan

hello

       Has anyone of you pondered on what matters most to you? Or question whether what you’re doing now is what you really want? Maybe you think I don’t make sense, ok then try this:  

       We work abroad for our parents, family, and love ones. We want to secure everyone’s future. It’s our way of showing our love and performing our responsibilities. So as a substitute to our physical gesture of love like kissing, hugging, caressing, tapping, and the importance of our presence when they need us, we send them our monthly allocation. We think that makes them happy and that’s what they need. What if it is not what they truly want from you???  Like for instance our parents are not getting any younger and we set aside being with them because we think working abroad is just temporary. We want to earn first before coming back in preparation for the “they live happily ever after”. What if before that time comes it was too late? You are already deprived of the chance seeing your parents again. You are too late to give them the life you have been working for. Then a friend of you will tell you in your parents wake they have longed to see you because that is what they truly want.

          Hahay…. hirap din noh, I don’t know if you guys have processed all issues in your voyage away from home. Maybe I am just reminding myself and also you guys of our true reason why we are away. Reconsider this: Initially just for six months, then extended for 1 year, it became 2, 3, and 4 years and it became forever. Unconsciously we started to enjoy the money we are earning and get used to the life we are in. Eventually our lifestyle now becomes our standard of life.  And the kind of life we had in our mind before has been replaced by the life we have been having abroad.

Best Regards,

Chester